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1 Peter 3
The text this morning is a call for women to be women of valor. We all want to be like these women.
-Especially those who are married to a non-promise-keeper.
You can see what I mean by "non-promise-keeper" in verse 1. Women who are married to men who are "disobedient to the word."
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives. 1 Peter 3:1
"Women of Valor" from verse 6.
like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. V.6
The women called to be daughters of Sarah (Abraham's wife), and not to be frightened by any fear. A woman on Valor does not act out of fear. She conquers fear.
What is a promise keeper?
Men of C4! take note.
1. To honor Jesus Christ through worship, prayer, and obedience to God's Word in the power of the Holy Spirit.
2. To pursue vital relationships with a few other men, understanding that he needs brothers to help him keep his promises.
3. To practice spiritual, moral, ethical, and sexual purity.
4. To build strong marriages and families through love, protection, and biblical values.
5. To support the mission of the church by honoring and praying for his pastor, and by actively giving his time and resources.
6. To reach beyond any racial and denominational barriers to demonstrate the power of biblical unity.
7. To influence his world, being obedient to the Great Commandment and the Great Commission.
Some women are not going to have promise-keepers.
As the gospel is spread throughout the world- it does not always convert married couples together. Sometimes one is converted and the other not.
Remember what Jesus said...
Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. Luke 12:51-52
When one person in the household is converted and the other is not, it causes a spiritual division. Because one person is not living for Christ and the other is not. The wife in 1 Peter 3 is in the group of people who are converted, and the husband is in the group who are not. They are on opposite sides.
The text is about how Christian wives should live in that situation.
Now I know that at 90% of people here today are not married to a man who is a non-promise-keeper, because you're not married at all, or you're a man, or you're a woman who's married to a believer.
Should the 90% tune out while I deal with women of valor for non-promise-keepers?
Did Peter want everybody else to tune out?
He wrote is so that there is specific guidance for women married to non-promise-keepers, but he also wrote it so that the foundation of her relationship to her husband is the same foundation all of us can have.
A quick word directly to the women who are married to non-promise-keepers; and then broaden out the application to all of us.
6 Things Submission Does NOT Mean
1. Agreeing with everything
Submission does not mean agreeing with everything your husband says. Verse 1: She is a Christians and he is not. He has one set of ideas about ultimate reality. She has another. Peter calls her to be submissive while assuming she will not submit to his view of the most important thing in the world- God.
2. Leaving your brain at the altar
Submission does not mean leaving your brain or your will at the wedding altar. It is not the inability or the unwillingness to think for yourself. Here are women who hear the gospel of Jesus Christ. She thought about it. She assessed the truth claims of Jesus. She thought for herself and she acted. And Peter does not tell her to retreat from that commitment. Likewise, couples who are Christians, your calling and gifts are apart from each other.
3. Avoiding every effort to change a husband
Submission does not mean avoiding every effort to change a husband. The whole point of this tet is to tell a wife to "win" her husband.
The goal of this text is to help wives bring about the most profound change in their husbands that can be imagined- the transformation from being a spiritually dead unbeliever to a spiritually alive believer.
4. Putting a husband's will before Chris's will
Submission does not mean putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ. The text clearly teaches that the wife is a follower of Jesus before and above being a follower of her husband.
5. Getting personal, spiritual strength from a husband
Submission does not mean that a wife gets her personal, spiritual strength from her husband. A good husband should indeed strengthen and build up and sustain his wife. He should be a resource of strength. There are ways in which a wife is the "weaker vessel" as verse 7 says.
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 3:7
But what this text shows is that when a husband's spiritual nurturing and leadership is lacking, a Christian wife I not bereft of strength.
6. Acting out of fear
Finally, submission does not mean that a wife is to act out of fear. Verse 6b says" You have becomes [Sarah's] children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear." In other words, submission is free, not coerced by fear.
What then is submission?
It is the disposition to follow a husband's authority and an inclination to yield to his leadership.
What Peter gives to these wives is a foundation that can and should be under all our relationships- especially with unbelievers.
Let me mention them quickly..
This is for all of us
1. God as the source of strength
The source of her and our strength is not ourselves or our family, but God. look to God for the love and the security and the joy that you long for. Then you will be able to have the strength for others.
2. Becoming gentle, quiet, fearless people
Let your hope in God go to work on your inner being and make you a gentle, quiet, fearless person. I'm talking to men and women here.
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3: 3-4
When you hope in God, you're not all caught up in the externals like makeup, hairstyle, earrings, and clothes. What you are caught up in is becoming a deep, settled, strong, tranquil, gentle, fearless person. Valor
3. Winsome Behavior
Attractive or charming. Pleasing. Childlike charm
People who hope in God and begin to become deep, tranquil, strong, gentle, fearless persons on the inside start to act outwardly in ways of
I call us all to be like the holy women of old, and to hope in God, not in husbands or wife or children or job or insurance or investment or government, but God